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TD Jakes on Saying Good-Bye

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Posted by: akabezalel

My friend sent this to me and they are powerful words.
Not always a simple task to implement or recognize, but it makes you think.

LET IT GO...
by T.D.Jakes

There are people who can walk away from you.

And hear me when I tell you this!

When people can walk away from you: let them walk.

I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you.

I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk.

Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

People leave you because they are not joined to you.

And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.

Let them go.

And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person, it just means that their part in the story is over.

And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead.

You've got to know when it's dead.

You've got to know when it's over.

Let me tell you something I've got the gift of good-bye.

It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye.

It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have... He'll give it to me.

And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it.

Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to...

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ...

LET IT GO!!!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see
your worth...

LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you...

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge ...

LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction...

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents ..

LET IT GO!!!

If you have a bad attitude...

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better...

LET IT GO!!!

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him...

LET IT GO!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship...

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves...

LET IT GO!!!

If you're feeling depressed and stressed...

LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling
yourself and God is saying 'take your hands off of it,' then you
need to...

LET IT GO!!!

Let the past be the past.

Forget the former things.

GOD is doing a new thing for 2008!!!

LET IT GO!!!

Get Right or Get Left ... think about it, and then

LET IT GO!!!


'The Battle is the Lord's!'


Posted by: JeriRose12

Amen and amen!!!


Posted by: eagle4him

Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Lord I pray this day in Your name, that everyone that struggled with the past, whether a person or a circumstance would let it go. To those that left I say God bless you! To those that have stayed, I say, God bless you. Lord, not our wills, but thine be done this year in Jesus name!


Posted by: tb7294

who is left to rebuild the walls? Nehemiah faced opposition daily..
i believe there is a remnent of those who will do what the bible
teaches - and listen to what the Holy Ghost is speaking to the churches
and individuals who are listening and no matter what the cost.
Pray for those who mistreat you, if they ask you to walk a mile-walk two miles! What is love if we dont practice 1 corinthians 13.
if we knew the Holy Ghost intimately - he would give us practical steps on how to effectively walk whatever path that we are on.


Posted by: jonnyc7

Smarten up, your quotes are ridiculous!!

So what?

If a marriage is failing let it go?

Umm NO!!! fight and pray for what God brought together!!!

If your family won't talk to you, let it go?

NO pray for reconciliation!!!

If your friend won't listen and quit drugs,let it go??

NO! FIGHT FOR YOUR FRIEND TO FIND GOD!!!!!!

NEVER EVER QUIT FIGHTING!!!!!!!!

letting things go is a weak person's method!!!

JESUS BELIEVED IN THE CHURCH AND DID NOT LET IT GO AND HE FOUGHT SO HARD FOR IT HE DIED FOR IT!!!!!!!!!

THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU POST!!

FIGHT AND PRAY FOR WHAT YOU WANT WHILE FOLLOWING JESUS!!!!


Posted by: JeriRose12

You can not force anyone to do what you want them to do, no matter how good a thing you are wanting for them. If they chose not to listen to you or God, LET IT GO!!! Let it go in the sense of the scirpture that says to let an unbelieving partner go because we are called to live at peace rather than making ourselves miserable trying to force them to do something they don't want to. Or if they are having an affair and won't repent, let THEM go! It's OK to divorce in that situation. If that person is determined to go, they WILL go. There is no where in scripture that says we are called to force our will on another, which is what many try to do in prayer. They are praying THEIR WILL onto that person. If it is not that persons will, they can pray 24/7 and that person will still walk. In that case, LET IT GO!!! We didn't say not to pray for them, as in we should be praying for their salvation and repentance. But EMOTIONALLY and MENTALLY we have to LET IT GO!!! so we can move on with life and not be stuck eternally at the point where they walked out on us.

Hope that clarifies.

JeriRose


Posted by: Christian Commando

jonnyc7-

We can appreciate your ferver for sticking up for those who won't listen. But, you have mistaken what TD Jakes speaks of in that talk.

When he speaks of "letting go", its to not dwell on the situations or people. God expects us, regardless of the situation, to always focus on Him, not circumstances around us.

Yes pray, but do not expend more focus on that than God. If we do, we leave serving God as He calls us behind, in favor of praying for so many bad situations.

Both God and Christ declares we are to leave the troubles of the day before, behind us, that we may focus on God's directing us today.

God and Christ also speak about how we are to do our part first, to give God the ability to maybe work thru us to improve a situation. If only negative responce, shake the dust off our feet and go on, leaving the people or situation to God alone to deal with.

Besides that, God knows better who will be receptive to His Gospel, enlightenment of leading etc, and who won't. So, who are we to say keep fighting, not knowing if is a lost battle already or not?

Only God knows the heart of each person. therefore, we must follow God and leave those who won't listen to us, to God from there on.

As for marriages that have fallen apart, how do we know God had condoned some marriages before hand and brought them together? The whole reason the divorce rate has now passed the number of marriages occurring, is because Satan, the "great imitator" of God, has influenced people, thru worldly lusts of all kinds, to marry each other, not God guided and drawn together.

Yes, God "ordained" marriage with Adam and Eve. But, know for sure, God does not "condone" all marriages.

In general, as JeriRose said, you and I cannot control anyone. Nor will God control anyone. We can petition God to help someone. but, if comes down to that person needing to decide to accept or reject what happens or they hear, its thier choice, not yours, not mine, nor God's.

It comes down to understanding good Godly common sense God teaches us In His Word how to deal with things. As such, instead of our needing to think about what we post, I ask that rather of you my friend.

For you have used only "selected Scriptural referencing" and not spoken with all related Scriptures. For you left out Old Test Scriptures declaring how christ was Prophecied as the "Lion of Juda", He was also Prophecied to be on this earth as meek as a sacrificial Lamb".

This is clearly evident in His very meek life lived during His Ministry, while still, tho loving and gentle, Teaching with incredible authority.

think about these things my friend.

God Bless!!


Posted by: JeriRose12

What about the rich young ruler? He chose money over eternal life. And Jesus just let him go. He never went after him, begged of him or any such thing...just let him walk away. He had made his choice.

What about scriptures that tell us if they don't receive us in peace to shake the dust and move on?

We are also told to not cast our pearls before swine. And there are people you can lecture and lecture about doing the right thing and they just keep coming back with a stubborn refusal to do things in a Godly fashion. You one day realize you have to quit sharing with them, because you are casting pearls before swine.

We are not like Jesus in that he never once ran after anyone begging and pleading with them to do what was right. We go back countless times, and I am not sure that's what He wants. He told them "Leave all and follow me," and He kept walking. And THEY followed. They got up and walked AFTER Him. Doesn't say they prayed that he would go after people. God is not going to chase someone if they don't desire to be chased. I believe He will send Godly influences across their path if others are praying for them. But as we can not force what we want on them (no matter how Godly a desire). We have to pray that God changes their heart to be willing to allow Him to intervene, that God touches their hearts to be receptive to His correction.

There is also the parable of the prodigal son. Did the Father go after him? Absolutely not! He sat and watched and waited for his return. He was patient to allow the son to come an end of himself and do what anyone does in that situation: Look UP (or homeward as that story goes). I am sure he prayed every day...but he LET HIM GO!!! He even gave him his portion of the inheritance, as in he knew the son was going to go no matter what because he was determined to do so.

So, yes, pray for healing and reconcilation and all of that. But LET IT GO!!! Leave the person to GOD'S dealing. We think we have to "help" God, and we only get in the way of Him working in that person's life. It seems like we feel God isn't moving unless we are "doing" something! Well, let go of the "need" to "do" something...and leave the matter in God's hands.

The reason marriages aren't lasting is partly becuase people do rush in due to lusts, etc. But it's also because people don't seem to care what the Bible says and follow their own selfish desires in bailing out and not allowing God to renew and restore the love that they once had (or to let Him transform the lust to love). T.D. Jakes is not condoning divorce, if that's what you are thinking. He is saying that their is a Godly and righteous "Good-bye" that means you can successfully move on if they walk out on you and leave that person to God's dealings. I believe when people married in older times it was "for life" because they understood God's Word. So even if they married for wrong reasons, people simply stuck it out because they understood divroce was wrong. Not so today, and many do walk. What are you going to do in reponse? Drive yourself crazy and into a state of desperation where you have no peace because of it? We think we are warring in prayer but are we really WORRYing in prayer?

Each example here is perfectly scriptural. We think of being Christ-like and that it means we will endlessly keep bailing people out and tyring to help them and trying to preach at them...but remember he said the parables were so that those who really were seeking truth would COME AFTER HIM and ask Him what they meant. And the rest, well they'd remain blind and deaf, because they really didn't care to know the truth. If you read through the Gospel's it becomes plain that Jesus did not keep going after people who rejected Him (of course, He was God and knew there inner thougths and whether they would repent). He told the one thief on the cross he would be with Him in paradise because He saw that man was receptive. He said nothing to the other thief. And wouldn't all of us think we should be preaching a sermon to him? Since Jesus was God, we do need to use discernment on when He is asking us to speak to someone and when He is asking us to refrain.

I think sometimes when we are in a situation we aren't thinking rationally. We only want what we want and want it so badly, we just beg, plead, whine, vent, etc. to God without seeing the bigger picture. We have a timing in mind and He may have another. Or He might actually for whatever reason be allowing that person to leave because they are pursuing a wrong path and are not a good influence for us (as in they are having an affair or becoming abusive). So...we get so wound up wanting to "do" something that we keep trying to force that person to repent and do right...when that decision is ulitmately theirs. People will do what they want to do. That's what free will is all about. We try to force something and probably just drive that person further away. So if we LET IT GO!!! we can let our emotions and thoughts settle down and become receptive to hearing God's Still Small Voice. Very hard to hear God's Still Small Voice when our own thougths and feelings are raging.

What does that scripture say? That having done all we STAND (doesn't say we run after them begging them to come home, do right, etc.). We put on our armor, and we STAND. There is no motion in STANDing. You can STAND for marriage restoration but that very word it isinuates you are STILL. Heard of standing in the gap? We get in position and don't move unless God says to! So we pray and cry out for that person to repent and get right....but we STAY OUT OF IT in our actions. We simply pray. We STAND. We are waiting and watching like the Father of the prodigal.

I seriously wonder how many of us have messed up God's working on somone by putting are ore in, so to speak? By putting our hands into the situation more often than not we make a mess.

I hope and pray you prayerfully consider this. It is for your own personal healing and wholeness that you must allow God to help you BE STILL AND KNOW THAT HE IS GOD!

JeriRose