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Husband Had To Give Vehicle Away

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Posted by: diamondcreates

Lord I know the best thing is for Dion to get rid of that vehicle, every time I see it, sit in it, drive it, I think about how he had to sell his other vehicle to pay some of the bills around the house, and that he his mother wasn't helping out at all. That car to me represented sad times, hurtful times when I boys wasn't at home. When his mother was there fighting with us every day. Lord I know that even though Dion didn't receive a penny from that vehicle, that it was the best decision he has made in a long time. He purchased the vehicle and made a trade out of desperation, he was overcharged for a vehicle that wasn't worth the 8,000 that the man sold it to Dion for. Lord, I ask that with this door, this chapter of our lives being closed, I ask that a new and improved door will be opened for my husband Dion. The money that he would have gotten for the vehicle if it was in even in decent condition, he shall received from one of the cases that is out standing for him right now. I lift this petition up to YOU dear Lord, to anoint Dion with his path to success. Amen, Amen, Amen..


Posted by: Barnabas

Quote:
Originally Posted by diamondcreates
Lord I know the best thing is for Dion to get rid of that vehicle, every time I see it, sit in it, drive it, I think about how he had to sell his other vehicle to pay some of the bills around the house, and that he his mother wasn't helping out at all. That car to me represented sad times, hurtful times when I boys wasn't at home. When his mother was there fighting with us every day. Lord I know that even though Dion didn't receive a penny from that vehicle, that it was the best decision he has made in a long time. He purchased the vehicle and made a trade out of desperation, he was overcharged for a vehicle that wasn't worth the 8,000 that the man sold it to Dion for. Lord, I ask that with this door, this chapter of our lives being closed, I ask that a new and improved door will be opened for my husband Dion. The money that he would have gotten for the vehicle if it was in even in decent condition, he shall received from one of the cases that is out standing for him right now. I lift this petition up to YOU dear Lord, to anoint Dion with his path to success. Amen, Amen, Amen..
Father God, I stand in agrement. Be with my sister and grant the desires of her heart. Restore everything that her family lost. I ask you to bring peace in their lives. Let every work of the devil in their lives be destroyed in Jesus name. I ask you to give them the financial miracle that they need. Help them to persevere and expect big things from you in the year 2008.

Joel 2: 18-28

In Jesus name, Amen.

Barnabas


Posted by: JeriRose12

If this chapter in your life is closed, it's better not to rehash it as in "when his mother was fighting with us every day." I am not saying I don't dwell on the past at times, even on the hurtful things others have done. But we have to be careful what we speak (or write/type). There is the power of life and death in our tongues....and I believe what we state in writing. You are re-enforcing negative thoughts and feelings toward others. You should be letting that go. LET THE PAST GO!!!

And I know your husband may not be doing everything you wish he would...but better to focus on the positive then the negative. What IS he doing right? Focus on those things. Here you said it was the best decision he made in a long time. In other words, you are treating him with disrespect by saying he makes bad decisons. Husbands need respect. The Bible says that a wife is to respect (reverence) her husband (sex IS NOT his #1 need; this is not Biblical! I think we only say sex is his #1 need, because he doesn't think he can get what he really needs. So he uses sex as a replacement for the wife wound of a lack of respect. Men don't even know how to express the need for reverence, so they buy into the [American] lie that a man's #1 need is sex. I hope this made sense. It's like with any area we are hurting in...We find something to assauge the pain, so men settle for sex in lieu of respect.)

I do the same things, in focusing to much on the negative. It's an area MOST of us need to grow in. Sometimes, I just notice you stating the negative so much...and I know you will be happier if you can find a POSITIVE way to phrase things. Here's what I often do, and this helps me to, slowly grow out of a negative mind set. I will come on here in the frame of mind to post about something upsetting me. I will type it up with all the pent up emotions pouring out. Then, I will think, "That's so negative," and erase it and rephrase. I have, then, shared those thoughts with God, been honest and candid with Him. But He showed me not to be negative, so I decided to retype it in a positive way. That already helped me to get a new perspective on things. Sometimes it's just the way we word it, like I might say, "Lord, I thank You that You are going to provide the car I need," as opposed to, "Lord, I desperately need a car, and I have no way to get one." Something that simple can raise our faith level.

I do see your teachable spirit and your growth in these areas. This so honors The Lord. I have tried to explain these types of things to some, and they just get mad. You, on the other hand, always thank us for pointing out areas for improvement and growth. I mean, we all get stuff pointed out to us where we need to do better. So, why get mad? I pray that you can just keep on getting less negative, which is the thing you have been doing. Praise the Lord for growth in your life! Some who have been on here a long time just seem to keep ending up back in the same attitudes over and over. I see you, little by little, moving into a less negative mind set, and that is so encouraging. God bless you as you continue seeking God's will in your life.

~JeriRose~


Posted by: BrendaMagana

Dear Jesus,

Please heal the cracks and damages Michelle and family have sustained in life.

Supernaturally change their situation and set their feet upon a firm and solid rock, amen.


Posted by: ninababy73

Quote:
Originally Posted by JeriRose12
If this chapter in your life is closed, it's better not to rehash it as in "when his mother was fighting with us every day." I am not saying I don't dwell on the past at times, even on the hurtful things others have done. But we have to be careful what we speak (or write/type). There is the power of life and death in our tongues....and I believe what we state in writing. You are re-enforcing negative thoughts and feelings toward others. You should be letting that go. LET THE PAST GO!!!

And I know your husband may not be doing everything you wish he would...but better to focus on the positive then the negative. What IS he doing right? Focus on those things. Here you said it was the best decision he made in a long time. In other words, you are treating him with disrespect by saying he makes bad decisons. Husbands need respect. The Bible says that a wife is to respect (reverence) her husband (sex IS NOT his #1 need; this is not Biblical! I think we only say sex is his #1 need, because he doesn't think he can get what he really needs. So he uses sex as a replacement for the wife wound of a lack of respect. Men don't even know how to express the need for reverence, so they buy into the [American] lie that a man's #1 need is sex. I hope this made sense. It's like with any area we are hurting in...We find something to assauge the pain, so men settle for sex in lieu of respect.)

I do the same things, in focusing to much on the negative. It's an area MOST of us need to grow in. Sometimes, I just notice you stating the negative so much...and I know you will be happier if you can find a POSITIVE way to phrase things. Here's what I often do, and this helps me to, slowly grow out of a negative mind set. I will come on here in the frame of mind to post about something upsetting me. I will type it up with all the pent up emotions pouring out. Then, I will think, "That's so negative," and erase it and rephrase. I have, then, shared those thoughts with God, been honest and candid with Him. But He showed me not to be negative, so I decided to retype it in a positive way. That already helped me to get a new perspective on things. Sometimes it's just the way we word it, like I might say, "Lord, I thank You that You are going to provide the car I need," as opposed to, "Lord, I desperately need a car, and I have no way to get one." Something that simple can raise our faith level.

I do see your teachable spirit and your growth in these areas. This so honors The Lord. I have tried to explain these types of things to some, and they just get mad. You, on the other hand, always thank us for pointing out areas for improvement and growth. I mean, we all get stuff pointed out to us where we need to do better. So, why get mad? I pray that you can just keep on getting less negative, which is the thing you have been doing. Praise the Lord for growth in your life! Some who have been on here a long time just seem to keep ending up back in the same attitudes over and over. I see you, little by little, moving into a less negative mind set, and that is so encouraging. God bless you as you continue seeking God's will in your life.

~JeriRose~



Jerena, sis, thanks for writing this out.

Michelle, what Jerena has stated is so true. I have been wanting to write close to the same things many times, but didn't because I did not want you to think that we/I are "picking" on you. A lot of times, we say stuff to people to help them grow, but it is not welcomed....so instead of saying things that could really help a person grow, I kinda of just let it go as to avoid confrontation. But now that the cat has been let out of the bag so to speak I can chime in and put my 2 cents in. So, here goes..................

You have got to stop rehashing the negatives stuff from the past. I am going to say it again. YOU HAVE GOT TO STOP REHASHING THE PAST. LET IT GO. LET IT GO. LET IT GO. The past is just that the past. It has gone away. The more that you relive it the more harm that you are doing to yourself, your family and to your marriage. Let it go and move forward. Forgive and truly forget.

Encourage Dion. He is going through a rough time right now. I could not imagine what he is going through, being the head of household, not working and can't work until he is released to work. That is a lot on a man/husband/father's psyche. The bible has clear guildlines on how a wife is to treat her husband. If you need bible passages, please advise and I will be happy to point you in the right direction.

As Jerena, states, we do see a teachable spirit in you. It is clear that you are trying to learn, so we will be more than happy to help you grow in your walk. Please take the time to really read what Jerena has written and mediate on it.

I continue to pray for you and your family. Your walk and your growth.


Posted by: diamondcreates

Quote:
Originally Posted by Barnabas
Father God, I stand in agrement. Be with my sister and grant the desires of her heart. Restore everything that her family lost. I ask you to bring peace in their lives. Let every work of the devil in their lives be destroyed in Jesus name. I ask you to give them the financial miracle that they need. Help them to persevere and expect big things from you in the year 2008.

Joel 2: 18-28

In Jesus name, Amen.

Barnabas

thank you Barnabas for your wonderful prayer. May God continue to bless you and your family in all that you shall do. Amen


Posted by: diamondcreates

Quote:
Originally Posted by JeriRose12
If this chapter in your life is closed, it's better not to rehash it as in "when his mother was fighting with us every day." I am not saying I don't dwell on the past at times, even on the hurtful things others have done. But we have to be careful what we speak (or write/type). There is the power of life and death in our tongues....and I believe what we state in writing. You are re-enforcing negative thoughts and feelings toward others. You should be letting that go. LET THE PAST GO!!!

And I know your husband may not be doing everything you wish he would...but better to focus on the positive then the negative. What IS he doing right? Focus on those things. Here you said it was the best decision he made in a long time. In other words, you are treating him with disrespect by saying he makes bad decisons. Husbands need respect. The Bible says that a wife is to respect (reverence) her husband (sex IS NOT his #1 need; this is not Biblical! I think we only say sex is his #1 need, because he doesn't think he can get what he really needs. So he uses sex as a replacement for the wife wound of a lack of respect. Men don't even know how to express the need for reverence, so they buy into the [American] lie that a man's #1 need is sex. I hope this made sense. It's like with any area we are hurting in...We find something to assauge the pain, so men settle for sex in lieu of respect.)

I do the same things, in focusing to much on the negative. It's an area MOST of us need to grow in. Sometimes, I just notice you stating the negative so much...and I know you will be happier if you can find a POSITIVE way to phrase things. Here's what I often do, and this helps me to, slowly grow out of a negative mind set. I will come on here in the frame of mind to post about something upsetting me. I will type it up with all the pent up emotions pouring out. Then, I will think, "That's so negative," and erase it and rephrase. I have, then, shared those thoughts with God, been honest and candid with Him. But He showed me not to be negative, so I decided to retype it in a positive way. That already helped me to get a new perspective on things. Sometimes it's just the way we word it, like I might say, "Lord, I thank You that You are going to provide the car I need," as opposed to, "Lord, I desperately need a car, and I have no way to get one." Something that simple can raise our faith level.

I do see your teachable spirit and your growth in these areas. This so honors The Lord. I have tried to explain these types of things to some, and they just get mad. You, on the other hand, always thank us for pointing out areas for improvement and growth. I mean, we all get stuff pointed out to us where we need to do better. So, why get mad? I pray that you can just keep on getting less negative, which is the thing you have been doing. Praise the Lord for growth in your life! Some who have been on here a long time just seem to keep ending up back in the same attitudes over and over. I see you, little by little, moving into a less negative mind set, and that is so encouraging. God bless you as you continue seeking God's will in your life.

~JeriRose~

Hey JeriRose, thank you ever so much for your teachings. I didn't realized that I was going back to the negative side of things. I guess after telling Dion I didn't think that car was a good reliable car, when I said it was the best decision he made in a long time, that is what I was basing it on. He is very hard headed and stubborn, don't see things until the very last minute. Now he is kicking himself in rear because earlier last year a car saleman called him on a saturday afternoon and wanted to purchase the vehicle for 3,800 but because Dion thought it was BMW -- he could get more. He didn't respect me and my thoughts and my opinion at that time. Now instead of getting 3,800 he got zero for it. He and I agreed that it was a learning lesson and he got the lesson. Sometimes GOD gives us signs and it is up to us to grab on to the rope that he is giving us, or continue to 'hold out for something better' and when that time comes, that big pay day won't be as big as it first was offered.

God bless sister and thank you again.


Posted by: diamondcreates

Quote:
Originally Posted by BrendaMagana
Dear Jesus,

Please heal the cracks and damages Michelle and family have sustained in life.

Supernaturally change their situation and set their feet upon a firm and solid rock, amen.

Thank you dear sister in Christ. May God continue to anoint you in all that you do. Anoint you with your studies and all. God bless dear one.


Posted by: diamondcreates

Quote:
Originally Posted by ninababy73
Jerena, sis, thanks for writing this out.

Michelle, what Jerena has stated is so true. I have been wanting to write close to the same things many times, but didn't because I did not want you to think that we/I are "picking" on you. A lot of times, we say stuff to people to help them grow, but it is not welcomed....so instead of saying things that could really help a person grow, I kinda of just let it go as to avoid confrontation. But now that the cat has been let out of the bag so to speak I can chime in and put my 2 cents in. So, here goes..................

You have got to stop rehashing the negatives stuff from the past. I am going to say it again. YOU HAVE GOT TO STOP REHASHING THE PAST. LET IT GO. LET IT GO. LET IT GO. The past is just that the past. It has gone away. The more that you relive it the more harm that you are doing to yourself, your family and to your marriage. Let it go and move forward. Forgive and truly forget.

Encourage Dion. He is going through a rough time right now. I could not imagine what he is going through, being the head of household, not working and can't work until he is released to work. That is a lot on a man/husband/father's psyche. The bible has clear guildlines on how a wife is to treat her husband. If you need bible passages, please advise and I will be happy to point you in the right direction.

As Jerena, states, we do see a teachable spirit in you. It is clear that you are trying to learn, so we will be more than happy to help you grow in your walk. Please take the time to really read what Jerena has written and mediate on it.

I continue to pray for you and your family. Your walk and your growth.


Thank you dear Nina, for all that you have said, meant allot to me, and I will improve on leaving the past in the past and praying on the hurts that the past has left inside of me without really knowing how bad it all have hurt me. What JeriRose stated about what you write and say is very powerful. I have a journal, full of prayers. I open up each day -- Dear Heavenly Father. And I thank HIM for all the things that HE has bestowed upon this family, no matter how great or little. They are each a blessing from HIM. 4 months since my husband received any type of money!!! We are able to survived due to HIS grace and mercy on this family. Bills being paid, debts being satisified, food on the table, clothes on our backs, money in our pockets for lunch money for the children, gas money for me, and after school care for Donnell. Praise God from where all these blessings come from!!! And I know the best is YET TO COME!!!! Storms don't last always!!! PRAISE GOD!!!! PRAISE HIM FOR HAVING MERCY ON US --PRAISE HIM FROM WHERE ALL BLESSINGS FLOW FROM!!!! IF IT WASN'T FOR HIM, MY HOUSE WOULD BE IN FORECLOSED!!! MY TRUCK REPOSSESSED!!! LORD I THANK YOU!!!! I GIVE YOU THE ULTIMATE PRAISE AND GLORY FOR LORD IF IT WASN'T FOR YOU, I DON'T KNOW WHERE I WOULD BE AT!!!! PRAISE HIM , PRAISE HIM, PRAISE HIM!!!!! GLORY TO GOD IN THE HIGHEST!!! HOSANA IN THE HIGHEST!!!


Posted by: MarkSentMe

Father God,
Thank You for leading Dion to give the car away. Lord, I just ask that this vehicle be a blessing to the recipient and that somehow the generosity can be used as a seed to bring the recipent closer to You. May this act be used as a blessing for Dion and Michelle's family. I ask for healing in this family. Thank You, Lord. Amen.

Sharyn


Posted by: JeriRose12

Thank you dear Nina, for all that you have said, meant allot to me, and I will improve on leaving the past in the past and praying on the hurts that the past has left inside of me without really knowing how bad it all have hurt me. What JeriRose stated about what you write and say is very powerful. I have a journal, full of prayers. I open up each day -- Dear Heavenly Father. And I thank HIM for all the things that HE has bestowed upon this family, no matter how great or little. They are each a blessing from HIM. 4 months since my husband received any type of money!!! We are able to survived due to HIS grace and mercy on this family. Bills being paid, debts being satisified, food on the table, clothes on our backs, money in our pockets for lunch money for the children, gas money for me, and after school care for Donnell. Praise God from where all these blessings come from!!! And I know the best is YET TO COME!!!! Storms don't last always!!! PRAISE GOD!!!! PRAISE HIM FOR HAVING MERCY ON US --PRAISE HIM FROM WHERE ALL BLESSINGS FLOW FROM!!!! IF IT WASN'T FOR HIM, MY HOUSE WOULD BE IN FORECLOSED!!! MY TRUCK REPOSSESSED!!! LORD I THANK YOU!!!! I GIVE YOU THE ULTIMATE PRAISE AND GLORY FOR LORD IF IT WASN'T FOR YOU, I DON'T KNOW WHERE I WOULD BE AT!!!! PRAISE HIM , PRAISE HIM, PRAISE HIM!!!!! GLORY TO GOD IN THE HIGHEST!!! HOSANA IN THE HIGHEST!!!

Praise the Lord for this report!!! He is truly awesome and good!!!

~JeriRose~


Posted by: diamondcreates

Quote:
Originally Posted by MarkSentMe
Father God,
Thank You for leading Dion to give the car away. Lord, I just ask that this vehicle be a blessing to the recipient and that somehow the generosity can be used as a seed to bring the recipent closer to You. May this act be used as a blessing for Dion and Michelle's family. I ask for healing in this family. Thank You, Lord. Amen.

Sharyn
Thank you dear Sharyn & JeriRose, for your blessings. May God continue to uplift you and inspire you in all that you shall do. Amen