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Marriage ending
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Posted by: SheilaJS
Last September, my husband's business failed...leaving us financially unstable and my husband in emotional ruins from the stress. Work has always been his mistress and without it he felt like a failure.
Working together, we found him a job in Edmonton, AB...3000 miles from home....one that proved to be lucritive in helping us get back on our feet. He left October 4th, 2002 to start over...while our 3 children and I worked hard to hold us together as a family, get the house ready for sale in order to join him as soon as possible.
For the next year everyone was doing what needed to be done to make this new start far from the familiar a reality. Our son graduated from school and chose to attend college in Alberta....one more piece of the puzzle in place for reuniting us.
In August, my husband started sending messages for me not to hurry out...I wouldn't be happy there...stay where I was until our youngest was finished school. But I have been a woman divided....my heart in Edmonton...the empty shell in Atlantic Canada.
On September 15th, I received an email telling me our marriage of 21 years was over.....he had met somone on the internet roamnce chatline from Vancouver.....a woman he has met face to face 1 time......a woman he says he loves deeply. Not only does he want out, he wants out immediately because she is not willing to wait even a year for legal separation to take its course.
I am shattered.....I love him.....as I always have....and I had no idea he was feeling this way....my love, my life, my future, my dreams, my family, my security have all been swept away by the stroke of the keyboard.
I have always been a faithfilled woman...but I cannot feel God.....I tried going to church to find comfort in the Lord and in my faith community....but unknowingly chose to go the Sunday that the Gospel was the story of the Pharisee asking Jesus if it was lawful for a man to divorce his wife......and now I cannot even find comfort there.
My grief is unconsolable....I love him and forgive him everything....and only want him to try.....to even give as much time to trying to save our marriage as he gave to unravelling it.......but his heart is stone.....his sights on looking westward instead of his family in the east. He has turned away from everyone and everything that was part of his story before August.....his friends, his family, his children....and me.
The past year has been the life of Job as I struggled with lonliness and hardship in his absence...and now, when we finally have an offer on our house, my world has collapsed. I have no hope in me...and I always had hope......there is no joy in my day.....no promise of release from this pain...
Please pray for John.....pray God will find a way to speak to his heart....so he might be able to look at himself in the mirror and see a righteous man....to see pride in his children's eyes.....to hold fast to his wife who loves him without question, anger, condemnation.
Please pray for my children....to reestablish trust in their father and find peace.
Please pray for me.....to find solace in God, to find hope again, release from this pain in my heart......I need to feel God....and trust he will turn this tragic event into blessing......
Sheila
Posted by: ladyb
Lord..please restore what has been lost in this marriage..Lord, place the spirit of conviction on Sheila's husband. Let him have no desire for any other woman but Sheila...Give her strength to withstand the storm..
Let her come to know you more that she has ever known, give her comfort..bind the spirit of depression from her life..
Anoint her for the warfare...I declare that this marriage...will glorify God...
Let no weapon that is formed against them prosper..
I speak restoration ...in the name of Jesus..Cover this marriage with the blood of Jesus...
Posted by: Pickle
Sheila,
I am in tears for your situation. Please know that God is there. I understand completely how you feel. My husband is involved in something very similar. He has turned his back on me and all of his friends because of a woman he met and now says he loves. I will be praying for you. All I can say is this, keep praying to God. Do not give up. God is the one who has to deal with him now. Pray for whatever God has to do to get through to him. Is your husband John a believer? He told you all of this in an email. Pray that the evil which he has succombed to will be bound. If your marriage was like mine, it was good before you became separated by forces beyond your control. John was weak. His relationship with God was not where it needed to be abd the devil tempted him and he was probably all too easily led into sin. And now, his heart is hard to it. Try to pray for this woman, too. She sounds as if she is manipulating the situation (i.e. she won't wait for a year.) Pray for her salvation. I know that is very difficult, but she is being used as a pawn of Satan right now to destroy your marriage. Pray for her eyes to be opened and conviction in her heart.
If you need anything, please PM me. I will keep you in my prayers. There are many on this board who are praying for marriages and relationships to be restored. You will find love and support here.
God bless,
Laura
Father,
My heart aches for Sheila for I understand very deply her pain. Lord, be with her. Comfort her in this time of great grief. Help her to see what Your will is for her life. I pray for a restoration of this marriage. I pray especially for John. Lord, smash that cold hardened heart that John has. The root of the problem here is John lost focus on You. Lord, convict him and bring him back to You. Lord, do whatever needs to be done to break John and set him back on the right path. Break up this relationship with the other woman. Let their love grow cold and die. Please work in John's heart and mind to show him the truth about what he is doing, that this woman that he is pursuing will only bring destruction to him and that he needs to turn from his sin and repent and go back to his wife. Let him not be manipulated by this immoral woman. Break all connection between them Father. Let his computer break so that he can no longer chat with her. Soften John's heart toward his wife. Thank you for Sheila's heart of forgiveness. Help her to be faithful and not grow angry and bitter. Be with her and dry her tears, Lord. In Jesus' name, I bind the spirit of adultery on John. I bind the enemy who seeks to destroy this marriage. Help John to be strong and give him a desire to fight off the enemy's attack. Put a hedge of protection around John and Sheila. Reconcile John to you and then to his wife. I also pray for the other woman. Open her eyes, Father. Please let her hear the gospel and come to a saving knowledge of You. Convict her of her actions about being with a married man. Help her to find someone else so that she will no longer want to be with John. Please let no divorce happen here for Your desire, Lord is for marriages to be strong. Let Your glory come from a restoration of this marriage. In Jesus' name, Amen