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Posted by: MaryBowman

I don't know where to turn. I have been married 13 years and have 2 beautiful children. One is 11 and one is 4. In the past few years especially the past 2 years my husband has changed. He use to be so caring, respectful, never swore, very religious, didn't drink much, never yelled or screamed and never hit our kids. In the past 2 years, he has become verbally and emotional abusive to my kids and myself, he has hit my son and strangled my daughter. I don't mean just yelling, but derogitory, he never wants to be home, he is always with his parents or his brother, he came home with my son one night and he had been drinking and driving. I have suffered from depression since I was 18 and now am 35, I have been in the hospital for depression 2 times, he holds that against me and says I am crazy. What is the right thing to do. Please pray for my family and the strength and courage to do the right thing. I have been in counseling for a year. He refuses counseling with a counselor or with clergy of our church. He said he doesn't have a problem, that I am the problem, My daughter who is 11 has had to be involved with a counselor at school for 2 years because of this, my son is verbally and physically abusive to me and my daughter and he is starting to act out at daycare. Mary


Posted by: cgirl

Father God, strengthen MaryBowman, give her strength to fight the good fight of faith. Let her faith rise up and let her know who she is in Christ. Baptize her in the Holy Spirit and fill her up with joy and peace. Let her husband come to repentance of these things. Take away the violence and drunkeness from him. Heal their children and let them not learn or use abusive attitudes. Take away the depression from Mary and let her be free as a bird. In your name and to your glory Jesus, amen and amen.

I bind/rebuke this drunkeness spirit and violence in Jesus name, also depression. Be removed and be cast into the sea! I loose forgiveness, healing, love, and joy to take it's place in Jesus name.

Do you read the Bible everyday?
Do you pray for at least an hour everyday?
Do you go to church? How about on Wednesdays?

I would go to counseling myself and agree in prayer for the things you need done in your life and in your families life. This is the time to plow into prayer every time you get a chance. 20 years is too long to suffer from depression. Greater is He who is in you, than he that is in the world. In God's presence there is fullness of joy. We get into his presence by prayer.

http://www.annointed.net/Community/...read.php?t=5152

Psalm 16:11 Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence is fulness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.


Posted by: JeriRose12

We are planning a prayer vigil to stand for marriage resotration. Please check out the following thread and join us:

http://www.annointed.net/Community/...p?t=6566&page=3

~JeriRose~

Lord God, we pray for turn around. Bring this husband into close relatiionship with You. Save him completely, that he may be healed and this marriage me be healed. Lord God, call him to You that he may set his heart on You, then he will set his heart on his wife and family. Bring a total restoration and healing, starting with healing this husband in the inner man. Do it, Lord, in Jesus Name, amen.


Posted by: Jojie

Heavely Father I lift up to you at this very moment, Mary Bowman. Free her dear God from the feelings of depression in Jesus Name. Use the counselling Mary is undergoing to release her from depression. Touch her husband and let him be kind to his wife Mary & their children. Let there be harmony, Peace, Joy & love in their family. Let there be understanding between husband & wife & please don't let the enemy take a hold in this family. Protect them God from the enemy and let your will be done in their lives. These I pray in the mighty name of our Lord & Savior Jesus Christ. Amen.


Posted by: Joeyruready

Who cares. I am cares. I am Loves. Gods love and peace and Joy are infinately beyound measure. I rejoice with you in your sufferings just as paul rejoiced in his afflictions. If we suffer unjustly you can be assured as you belong to God and are His that Romans 8:28 is true and that God will use all of these things for your good and for the good of your children. your husband is doing a rotten Job of his responsibilities and accountabilites before christ. We sin. God Loves. As a man that God made I hold myself accountable for your husbands sins. If my sin were not so great the good I could have been doing may have reached him long before this and you would not be suffering. We walk in flesh. Unloving unknowing. We are blind not knowing anything about God. God loves sincerly and perfectly and I tell you you are my sister and your burdens are mine. Please Do what God says. Do not merely listen to the word and so decieve yourselves but do what it says. He tells us to confess our sins to one another and he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. My sister, seek a strong christian woman...perhaps..an older woman whom you can trust and know is Gods child by her life's witness. Go to her...sit at her feet and confess your sins to her as you wash her feet. God is eternal. God is infinate. His power will move when we do as he said. He tells us to love one another and build each other up. You are sinning against your husband because you can not see to love. This is his shame because as men God holds us accountable. We are his leaders...meant to serve you into Gods love. Our sin is so grievous that instead of your husband teaching you in peace and security and love and lifting you up before God that his sins against you before God are so horrible we can not really understand. I forgive you of anything you may have done but we have to follow christ. He is Gods way for us to know God. We have nothing good except that God allows and nothing bad except that God is using it to reveal himself to us. I urge you...folow him. How? The word says that tho he is God he made himself nothing, even a servant to every man to do him good, this is serving others in love. If you humble yourself before a sister of yours in christ wash her feet as Jesus did for the diciples and confess your sins God will purify your eyes. God longs to come within you and let you know his peace and the greath depth and unknoable wisdom of Him who made us. We can not keep His law. We are bound to sin. I sin daily even in my prayer it is all so horrible. Commit yourself therefore to doing as God said. Your husband was made to teach you these things..but few men today still know the wisdom of coming before there wives and washing their feet and confessing every sin. I only just recieved from God as he removed lust from my eyes for His Glory. I was burdened for a child and in my burden I knew i was helpless to do any good for one I loved. I confessed sickening sins of lust in details before her and others and committed myself to doing what God said. I continue to sin and confess but God opened my eyes to somthing that is beyound imagination. With lust Gone God entered me through purified eyes and is renewing my mind in His word and changing me with power so much that my family and friends all are wondering what happened to me. He did this to me for your sake that you may also come into the light of his love. But it is by doing that we recieve. I take responsibility for your sins before God. Jesus did this for us all and took our punishment also. I tell you..if God can bow at a man's feet...you can find a sister who will encourage you into your humility before God. As God is eternal; so also His word to is is alive and fluid. Do not merely do this thing one time but commit yourself to continually confessing your sin to other women of God and Gods wisdom will fill your mind and you will understand what He wants you to know. My prayers to Gpd for you and your family. Your servant to Gods glory.


Posted by: daugther

The power of God is greater than the power of the enemy that has come to destroy your home. and if you are looking at your spouse's actions to determine whether or not your marriage will be healed, it probably won't be. But, if you will believe in an Almighty, All-Powerful and All knowing God, He will bring it to pass I believe that certainty can only be found in the word and in your Prayer Closet.The grace necessary to stand for a healed marriage comes from God Himself. You will need much grace. But his word says, He gives grace to the humble. Humble yourself before Him. Surrender your will and your life to his Lordship. He knows everything about you and your mate. He will comfort your heart when it needs comforting. He will give you wisdom when you don't know what to do next.don't let your desire to have your spouse and family restored get so intense that you begin to lose focus on Jesus and his timing and his will. if you notice that you begin to get emotionally drained or extremely tired all day then you know it is time to release your cares, too Jesus , because it is starting to weaken you. if you become weak, it just open the door for satan to enter your heart at the time God is trying to make you stronger! I pray he keep his eye upon you as you come and go he protects you day and night he keeps you from all evil and preserves your life Jehovah himself is caring for you he is your defender for he is always watching, never sleeping he will never let you stumble, slip or fall.# Put your trust in the lord!