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Posted by: LyssaDawn

I have looked and can't find anything specific that states how marriage is suppose to be done. I mean I read alot about so and so taking a wife but what does that mean? Is it when 2 people commit to each other as a husband and wife or when the pastor says they are married. I am very confused and need scripture to help me. If anyone knows the verses for this please reply.

thank you,
Mel


Posted by: Soteria777

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Originally Posted by LyssaDawn
I have looked and can't find anything specific that states how marriage is suppose to be done. I mean I read alot about so and so taking a wife but what does that mean? Is it when 2 people commit to each other as a husband and wife or when the pastor says they are married. I am very confused and need scripture to help me. If anyone knows the verses for this please reply.

thank you,
Mel


Gen. 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

1 Corinthians 7:2 But because of the temptation to impurity and to avoid immorality, let each [man] have his own wife and let each [woman] have her own husband.

Eph. 5:22-33 Wives, submit [give respect, honor] to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church--for we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."This is a profound mystery--but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Marriage is a representation of Christ and His bride, the church. It's a personal, intimate, passionate, forever union.

Is that what you're asking?

Legally, as far as the paperwork, that's just to obey the laws of the land as God has also commanded. Perhaps the Old Testament Law has some basis for our current laws concerning marriage and it's ceremonies? I know the Jewish culture is rich with marriage customs and ceremonies!


Posted by: LyssaDawn

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Originally Posted by Soteria777
Gen. 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

1 Corinthians 7:2 But because of the temptation to impurity and to avoid immorality, let each [man] have his own wife and let each [woman] have her own husband.

Eph. 5:22-33 Wives, submit [give respect, honor] to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church--for we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."This is a profound mystery--but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Marriage is a representation of Christ and His bride, the church. It's a personal, intimate, passionate, forever union.

Is that what you're asking?

Legally, as far as the paperwork, that's just to obey the laws of the land as God has also commanded. Perhaps the Old Testament Law has some basis for our current laws concerning marriage and it's ceremonies? I know the Jewish culture is rich with marriage customs and ceremonies!


I guess the "legal" part is the part I'm trying to figure out. I mean, I'm told it's a sin for a man and woman to live together outside of marriage but if they are claiming each other as husband and wife and just don't bother with the paperwork how is it wrong? I would just like to find out where the Bible says that you have be married in the ceremony way.


Posted by: jedijeb

I don't know that without paperwork it is wrong, but there should be a vow before God as being husband and wife and with that comes the responsibilities. There can never be anyone else for either of you or it becomes adultry even if you have separated for a long time. There is only unity of the one flesh; husband, wife, and God. Yes all three are to be there. There is no 50/50 either, it is 100/100. No give and take in the sense of the worlds ideas, as in giving to get something back and a marriage should be looked at as what can I give to this person not what benefit can I get from this marriage. Marriage is a total giving committment for life. I think the ceremony mainly is a public show of the committment being made to each other and to God, like baptism is a public acknowledegement of your acceptance of Jesus and Lord and Savior.

I doubt that answers your question, but I wanted to mention the importance of the act of considering being married with or without the ceremony. If anyone can find a scripture on this I would be interested in it also.


Posted by: Soteria777

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Originally Posted by LyssaDawn
I guess the "legal" part is the part I'm trying to figure out. I mean, I'm told it's a sin for a man and woman to live together outside of marriage but if they are claiming each other as husband and wife and just don't bother with the paperwork how is it wrong? I would just like to find out where the Bible says that you have be married in the ceremony way.


Well since our Laws are all based on the Bible, I'd say the Old Testament Jewish laws, which were given by God, are the foundations for the laws concerning joining a man and woman together in marriage. Without the legality of marriage, I believe it would be fornication in God's eyes. Marriage is a COVENANT between a man and a woman. God views covenants as very important in many areas, marriage being just one of them. Part of a legal covenant includes blessings and provision and covering and protection, for the married couple and the children produced from that marriage. Just as our covenant with God through Christ works. In Christ, we have blessings, provision, covering, protection, etc. Anything outside of that covenant brings the opposite.

While the legality and ceremonial ways of marriage vary throughout history and societies, there is still some outward 'legal' commitment and union in marriage that makes it legitimate in God's eyes. It is a Holy Union that God has ordained and commanded. That's why satan is trying so hard to destroy it and pervert it.