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Posted by: mdwyer3

My husband lost his job over 8 months ago. He was jealous and controlling before but now that he feels he doesn't have money to control over me he has become increasingly verbally abusive, shadowing and horribly intrusive.
There's no talking to my husband, reasoning is a joke and he rages for 1 - 4 hours every other day and sometimes every day. You can't get a word in and I just end up hurling insults back out of frustration. He's never sorry and everything is always my fault. And i mean everything he thinks, feels, says, does and every single problem he has or has had.
I have prayed and prayed for him over the years and it has gotten better, then bad again.
He had a very good paying job and career and it went to his head. He completely rejected God, became completely greedy, selfish and slowly went mad which is pretty much where he is now, only now I see more of it and realize how bad he is and how long he's been there.
I felt like God said to quit praying for him and within 2 or 3 weeks he was laid off. If someone prays over a person forever for blessings and wisdom and guidance for the betterment of the entire family and that person is in deep sin and will not listen to his conscience, then how will that person be convicted in his heart if he continues to live in comfort. I still have not prayed for him other than for conviction of his bad behaviour. He talks now as if he's seeking God but it's on a very shallow level. I haven't preached at him because he doesn't listen to criticism anyways. If he even feels criticised by anyone else he runs around raging about this thing that I'm doing. This guy is gone and it's taking a serious toll on everyone else.
We've been paying about half our rent each month for a few months now and trying to work things out with our landlord. Now we have a letter from him threatening legal action for the balance of the rent. I think he means eviction. We have one car running and we've been transporting our 2 older kids back and forth to work also. And now the one car is showing signs. And through it all my husband wants to hold the phone bill over my head on whether or not he's going to pay it. How does he think either of us are suppossed to get a job without a phone! He doesn't seem to be able to pull himself together to get through this and seems to want to stay in this petty little childish game playing mode that is only destructive, to everyone. We are at crunch time and don't have time or room for his bull. I feel like I'm living with Satan and I don't know which way to pray anymore beyond total deliverance, mercy, prosperity and peace for everyone.
I could leave my grown boys with my husband (they take his side anyways) and take my 2 young kids to another state to stay with my brother until I get work. Or I could keep trying here and hope things get better. I had an interview that I'm excited about and I'm suppossed to hear about next week. Pray for me. But I also feel like the reason nothing is improving is because I'm suppossed to leave. I feel like and have been treated like a prisoner. How can I be any of what God wants me to be when he calls every one I even try to start any kind of friendship with and tells them I don't know what. You couldn't imagine the things he threatens to tell them. And he always has a copy of every phone number I've ever dialed. I pray and listen and listen and I really feel like either option is going to be extremely difficult. My family is not very supportive and my brother would let me stay for a short time but it could be worse than what is going on now.
Pray for me, Please!


Posted by: anniewilly

God of heaven, listen to her cry and have mercy on her. God open her eyes to see and solve what is in the dark side of her family. break the devil powers that frustrate this family using her husband. As we believe all marriage partners comes from you as a gift. we believe you can as well change things and make her life better. Father please save their marriage and give them new meaning of life. give them hope and happines. I pray this through your son Jesus Christ who died for our sins
Amen.
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Originally Posted by mdwyer3
My husband lost his job over 8 months ago. He was jealous and controlling before but now that he feels he doesn't have money to control over me he has become increasingly verbally abusive, shadowing and horribly intrusive.
There's no talking to my husband, reasoning is a joke and he rages for 1 - 4 hours every other day and sometimes every day. You can't get a word in and I just end up hurling insults back out of frustration. He's never sorry and everything is always my fault. And i mean everything he thinks, feels, says, does and every single problem he has or has had.
I have prayed and prayed for him over the years and it has gotten better, then bad again.
He had a very good paying job and career and it went to his head. He completely rejected God, became completely greedy, selfish and slowly went mad which is pretty much where he is now, only now I see more of it and realize how bad he is and how long he's been there.
I felt like God said to quit praying for him and within 2 or 3 weeks he was laid off. If someone prays over a person forever for blessings and wisdom and guidance for the betterment of the entire family and that person is in deep sin and will not listen to his conscience, then how will that person be convicted in his heart if he continues to live in comfort. I still have not prayed for him other than for conviction of his bad behaviour. He talks now as if he's seeking God but it's on a very shallow level. I haven't preached at him because he doesn't listen to criticism anyways. If he even feels criticised by anyone else he runs around raging about this thing that I'm doing. This guy is gone and it's taking a serious toll on everyone else.
We've been paying about half our rent each month for a few months now and trying to work things out with our landlord. Now we have a letter from him threatening legal action for the balance of the rent. I think he means eviction. We have one car running and we've been transporting our 2 older kids back and forth to work also. And now the one car is showing signs. And through it all my husband wants to hold the phone bill over my head on whether or not he's going to pay it. How does he think either of us are suppossed to get a job without a phone! He doesn't seem to be able to pull himself together to get through this and seems to want to stay in this petty little childish game playing mode that is only destructive, to everyone. We are at crunch time and don't have time or room for his bull. I feel like I'm living with Satan and I don't know which way to pray anymore beyond total deliverance, mercy, prosperity and peace for everyone.
I could leave my grown boys with my husband (they take his side anyways) and take my 2 young kids to another state to stay with my brother until I get work. Or I could keep trying here and hope things get better. I had an interview that I'm excited about and I'm suppossed to hear about next week. Pray for me. But I also feel like the reason nothing is improving is because I'm suppossed to leave. I feel like and have been treated like a prisoner. How can I be any of what God wants me to be when he calls every one I even try to start any kind of friendship with and tells them I don't know what. You couldn't imagine the things he threatens to tell them. And he always has a copy of every phone number I've ever dialed. I pray and listen and listen and I really feel like either option is going to be extremely difficult. My family is not very supportive and my brother would let me stay for a short time but it could be worse than what is going on now.
Pray for me, Please!



Posted by: StarChilde

I feel led to share this with all the posts I read tonight, for it is some powerful stuff~!
I have been reading a book, called TURNING CURSES INTO BLESSINGS, and here is the website it is on:
http://www.christian-faith.com/bibl...blessings1.html I do not know why this is not coming up as the right url...I fix it, then it gets messed up when it gets posted...

the url is http://www.christian-faith.com then go to bible-studies and then go to cursestoblessings


The rest of this is from the book, found on the website~!I will also be praying in the spirit for you~

THE CURE
THE SOURCE OF THE CURE IS GOD.
THE ONLY WAY TO THE CURE IS JESUS.
DEATH ON THE CROSS WAS AND IS THE ONLY PRICE THAT WAS PAID FOR THE CURE.
HOW TO REMOVE CURSES
In Deuteronomy 28:1-2 we have the promise that if we shall hearken diligently to the voice of the Lord, we shall have the blessings overtake us. However, in Deuteronomy 28:14, it says, “if thou wilt not hearken unto the voice of the LORD thy God, to observe to do all his commandments and his statues which I command thee this day; that all these curses shall come upon thee, and overtake thee.”
I exhort you with all my strength and heart to read from verse 15 until the end of Deuteronomy 28. If you see any of these curses in your life or in your family, pray to God in Jesus’ name and repent for any unforgiven sins that you or your generations before you have done to cause these curses. Command the curses to be broken in the name of Jesus Christ and speak blessings to replace the curses in the name of Jesus. We have written out the entire passage in Appendix 1, so that you can logically and constructively deal with these matters that have had destructive consequences in your life.
This is not a religious experience. It is a spiritual preparation for you to serve your God, to be good parents, to be good spouses, and to be a great witness to a world that is dying in its curses. As these blessings start to minister to you, day-by-day, you will see changes. You will feel stronger, your confidence in your relationship with the Lord will be stronger, and your family ties will be sweeter. Financial blessings generally take some time, but as you are faithful to do what the word of God calls you to do, you will also see blessings in this area.
My prayer for each person that is reading this book is for his or her life to change, to move closer to the center of God’s will, to be that witness that we are asked to be in God’s Word. Our confidence in God will continue to grow until we can say to that mountain, “Be thou removed,” in the name of Jesus and see it come to pass.
Please allow me to pray with you: Heavenly Father, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, we come before you with praise and thanksgiving for the marvelous work that you have done for us. You gave your only-begotten Son, our Savior, to die on Calvary’s cross and to suffer such torture, so that we could be your children. You paid the price that it cost for all of our sins and the disobedience that we continue to do in our lives. Thank you right now for breaking the power of that sin in our lives and setting us free from any curses that have held us in bondage. We ask this in the name of Jesus for ourselves and for our families. We repent for the sins of our ancestors and of our nation. We ask that you will cleanse us with the blood of Jesus Christ as white as snow. Thank you that you will remember those sins no more. We humbly ask that you will help us to continue to obey your word, to seek your face, and to love and love some more. Thank you for all of the wonderful blessings of rest, health, prospering in your way, being able to bless those who curse us, being able to forgive and be forgiven. Thank you for encouraging us to speak your promises against any problem that we have. Give us faith that is greater than our problems. Help us to forgive those we have not forgiven, even if they have cursed us. We repent for any occult or occultist practices in our lives and in our families, or anything that we have permitted to get into our lives that have led us away from making your Son, Jesus, our Lord. Give us the strength to glorify your name in all situations, to give the sacrifice of praise and thanksgiving in place of complaint and discouragement. We thank you, Heavenly Father, for all that you have done in our lives and are going to do, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.


Posted by: MsBird59

Dear one, when it looks as though there is no light at the end of the tunnel, when you feel you've done all you can and can do no more, when you pray and pray but it seems that God is not listening, when you wonder why you have ended up in this situation when you have only tried to do what is right: my Sister in Christ, continue to pray.....pray that GOD'S WILL first be done in your situation; turn it over TOTALLY to the Lord, then just STAND and wait on him. Accept the situation as it is now, continue to do what you feel is right, continue to pray for His protection, pray for peace, pray for deliverance, all the while leaving the situation in the hands of God. Be PATIENT and wait. It is important to be prepared to accept whatever the outcome may be; STAND, and WAIT, and REMEMBER that God is faithful and NEVER forgets His own. Deliverance WILL come! I will pray for you also, and I solicit your prayers for a financial miracle for my family. God Bless and AMEN!!!!!!